Happily divorced and set to live life to its fullest, Nollywood actress, Chika
Ike has finally opened up on what really transpired in her recently crashed
seven-year-old marriage to Tony Eberiri, a Delta State-born corporate guru.
The actress had on Sunday, July 28, took to social network-Facebook-to announce
that she was formally divorced from her five-year-old marriage to estranged
lover- an announcement that was followed by loads of criticisms from both her
friends and fans.
To set the record straight, and probably attract the desired sympathy, the
Anambra State-born actress recently issued a statement, describing domestic
violence as the main reason she fled from the union which was blissfully
contracted in the year 2006.
“…It’s been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes, I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I’ve been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I’ve tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve that there’s really no right time because every second of the day, lives are being lost due to domestic violence.
“I was a victim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.
Growing up as a girl, I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block. Before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage I didn’t understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types.
It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions; after every beating, he pleads, cries and says it won’t happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him.
Over the years when it kept happening consistently, I started looking for other definitions for it. I started losing my pride, self esteem, self worth, and most painfully I lost a pregnancy (Miscarriage). I almost lost my life in the process then I realised how serious and abnormal it really was.
I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don’t know my story; I guess that’s why they are ignorant. I was 20-year-old and very naive to the world when I got married. They said I married for money! I was married to a corporate guy, who had a nine-five job in a bank, lives in a rented two bedroom apartment at Egbe.
So do the math! I married for love. I did a traditional wedding, a white wedding and a court wedding. So that’s how much I wanted to be married forever. For five years I hoped, prayed and wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the Carmel’s back was during a heated argument he threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on the wall.
I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.
I am not saying this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believe. I am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because it’s a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real,” she wrote.
Further clearing the air on her chances of remarrying, the visibly elated actress revealed that she has learnt a lot from her previous union and would rather look well before walking into another marriage. “Taking a look at my life lately, I think I’ve learnt a lot of lessons so far. Life has taught me to be very patient and not to be in a hurry to do anything. It has also taught me to be less judgmental on people and to look before I leap; but more importantly, not to give up,’’ she avowed.
“…It’s been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes, I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I’ve been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I’ve tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve that there’s really no right time because every second of the day, lives are being lost due to domestic violence.
“I was a victim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.
Growing up as a girl, I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block. Before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage I didn’t understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types.
It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions; after every beating, he pleads, cries and says it won’t happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him.
Over the years when it kept happening consistently, I started looking for other definitions for it. I started losing my pride, self esteem, self worth, and most painfully I lost a pregnancy (Miscarriage). I almost lost my life in the process then I realised how serious and abnormal it really was.
I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don’t know my story; I guess that’s why they are ignorant. I was 20-year-old and very naive to the world when I got married. They said I married for money! I was married to a corporate guy, who had a nine-five job in a bank, lives in a rented two bedroom apartment at Egbe.
So do the math! I married for love. I did a traditional wedding, a white wedding and a court wedding. So that’s how much I wanted to be married forever. For five years I hoped, prayed and wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the Carmel’s back was during a heated argument he threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on the wall.
I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.
I am not saying this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believe. I am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because it’s a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real,” she wrote.
Further clearing the air on her chances of remarrying, the visibly elated actress revealed that she has learnt a lot from her previous union and would rather look well before walking into another marriage. “Taking a look at my life lately, I think I’ve learnt a lot of lessons so far. Life has taught me to be very patient and not to be in a hurry to do anything. It has also taught me to be less judgmental on people and to look before I leap; but more importantly, not to give up,’’ she avowed.
By JAMES EMMANUEL
No comments:
Post a Comment