By AMARA BLESSING NWOSU: Below is a message I received on my Facebook fan page
:" You know what; my hubby has
made me not to believe in love and I don't love him anymore. Whenever anyone
talks about love around me, I get irritated. I am too emotional and I loved and
built this man with all my savings. I observed that if I curse him, it happens
that way. He made me to cry, heavens got involved and he lost his job. Now, he
is a driver to someone and cries every day, but I still hate him and wish I
never married him.
He was so unfaithful to me and that was what i told him that
I hate so much before we got married. He promised me in different ways to be
faithful and even used the Bible to swear... I hate him with passion. I am
holding on just because of my children and the one in d womb. Dear i need your
advice on how to lov him like before and how to forget what he did to me."
I don't know much about the Quran, but the Holy Bible
admonishes men to be careful when it comes to the way they treat their wife.
According to the Bible, if she cries unto God, your prayers will never be
answered. God even made it clear that He hardened His heart to their prayers
because they dealt treacherously with the wives of their youth. You cannot be
mean to your wife and expect God to be happy with you. The easiest way to be
blessed is by treating your wife right and getting her heart to be happy with
you.
Some years ago, an aunt's very rich husband so maltreated
her to the point that she was sending market list to her husband's secretary
for approval and money. This woman lived like a house help in her own husband's
mansion. The man always abused her. He bought brand new SUVs for his
girlfriends while the wife drove his used ones. My parents were always settling
issues for them and some days, I saw the woman run to our house with blood all
over her face. The husband became a little god. He completely forgot where they
came from. He started paying attention to his beautiful and sexy women out
there while ignoring his wife. The most painful part of it is that this very
man stopped his wife from furthering her education and becoming what she wanted
to become. He made her a full time housewife, she was not even allowed to be
part of her husband's business. His brothers were his next of kin while his
wife was married to him. He didn't do all these because she was a bad woman; he
did because he believed that's the right way to keep a woman under
control.
A day came that she ran to my mother and asked her to
stand with her in prayer for the husband's business to collapse. My mum was
shocked but she insisted. My mum tried to remind her of the suffering that
awaited her; She was okay with it. They prayed for God to take away everything.
I remember my mum taking foodstuff and other things to them, they became broke.
When this happened, the man closed down his business and that was when he
realized that there is God in heaven and He doesn't want to see people maltreat
their spouse. When she saw that all was gone and the man was back to her, she
ran to my parents and they prayed again for his restoration. He knelt down and
apologized to the woman for all the years of torture. Then God restored him and
even made him bigger. Today, he owns two micro finance banks alongside other
businesses.
People, you may not agree with this; I know that some
stubborn men without conscience will tell me to shut up. But there is a great
hindrance you place over your life when you don't treat your spouse right. Men
may not get things easily from God, but when a woman who truly loves God cries
unto God, He doesn't always keep quiet. I always feel that God has a special
place in his heart reserved for women alone. There is always a move when a
woman who has been nice to you but has received some bitter pills from you
cries out to God; He won't spare you. If you want to be very blessed love
your wife and treat her like your queen. If her heart is truly one with you,
nothing, no power on earth and in hell can stop you from becoming great.
Many great men have fallen and become like a piece of bread just
because they failed to understand this covenant called marriage. You may be
there thinking that your wife is just a housewife who is useless to you. I am
sure you don't know what she goes through to keep the home. I am sure you don't
know how many times she goes on her knees for you when you are out there. I am
sure you don't know how many battles she has fought and won for you in the
spiritual realm. You think it's all by your strength. Haven't you noticed how
some men come crash landing the very moment their lovely wife takes a walk?
Your wife is your glory. Your wife is the pillar on which
you lean to face the world. Never allow your wife's heart to go bitter against
you. Women forgive their spouse easily but once you push them to that point of
bitterness against you, you are finished. If you feel this is talking to you,
please go and seek true forgiveness from your wife and you will see what God
will do.
Don't get it twisted; this is in no way talking about those
godless women without conscience. This isn't talking about those women who
treat their husband like thrash. This is strictly about a virtuous and godly
woman. You know who you have; you know if she is godly and virtuous. You know
if you have been mean to her or she is just complaining.
Be careful
Amara Blessing Nwosu
Website: www.amarablessing.com
Email: amara@amarablessing.com
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